The Two Week ‘Last Longer’ Course
When it comes to being a man who has sex on a regular basis, you are faced with a selection of tricky dilemmas. Does size matter? Are you making your partner come? Do you look good naked? Are you initiating sex enough, or too much? There’s a myriad of questions we guys need to deal with when it comes to being sexually active. Usually the answers to these questions remain elusive, but there’s one question to which the answer is simple and clear and no one in their right mind would disagree with it. Is coming too quickly when you have sex a big problem? If you’re a woman, the answer is hell no! If you’re a man, which you and are I, the answer is hell yes!
So with that in mind, I’d like to welcome you to a special, one-off two week course. This course is going to cover a problem that 75% of guys suffer from: premature ejaculation. That means coming before you want to and before your partner has a had a chance to reach orgasm herself. If you’re one of the three quarters of guys who struggle to last longer than four minutes when you have sex, don’t worry, you aren’t alone. You’re also not alone when it comes to solving the problem, because over the coming 14 days (pun intended), you’re going to be coached on how to last longer—much longer.
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Day One: Stimulation Awareness
Alright, I’m glad you’ve decided to give this a try. All you need to do to improve your sexual stamina is read through each of the emails you’ll receive over the next two weeks, including this one and follow, as best you can, the advice they contain. You’re going to be taught techniques which have been tried and tested and shown to work when it comes to delaying when you come and increasing the amount of pleasure you give your partner. But it’s not just all about her—you’ll be having fun too, don’t worry about that. In fact, can you think of anything that could possibly give you more satisfaction than rolling around on a bed for 45 minutes with your woman, having sex that’s out of this world and wildly pleasurable for both of you then ending red-faced and exhausted with smiles on your faces? I can’t and I’ve got a good imagination. Let’s skip the science and the reasons why men suffer from rapid ejaculation. It’s enough to know that they do—and that you do. That’s the perfect place to start.
We’re going to be covering three main aspects of sexual stamina and how to improve it. They are:
- Stimulation Awareness
- Skills
- Attitude
We’ll start with Stimulation Awareness, because without a solid understanding of this concept, any other technique you read or hear about for controlling your climax is bound to fail.
I want you to think about the last time you came too early during sex. When did you realise that it was game over and coming was inevitable? If you’re anything like most guys who have rapid ejaculation problems, it was about 10 seconds before you actually came. When sorting out your problem with premature ejaculation, this isn’t good enough. You need to develop a really accurate awareness of how stimulated you are throughout the whole of your sexual encounter. Let’s call being erect but not at all physically stimulated 0. Now let’s call being stimulated but definitely still in control a 3 on our scale. 5 will be when you can definitely feel those strong sensations, around the tip of your penis and down at the base, but you are still in control. 7 is where you start to notice those sensations more than you don’t notice them—if you know what I mean. 7 is when you’re almost constantly feeling a strong sense of physical arousal in your penis. You’re not at the point of no return yet, but you know that if you carry on doing what you’re doing, you will be soon enough. 8 is getting close to the point of no return—you’re ridiculously stimulated. 9 is right on the edge, you’re about to pop. There can be as little as 3 seconds between being a 9 and 10 on the scale and 10—as you’ve probably guessed—is coming. It’s game over for your sexual performance. Of course, reaching 10 is your goal during sex: you want to come because it feels damn good and marks the end of your sexual encounter. But you want to choose when you reach 10.
Now that you have the stimulation scale set up in your mind, you need to get used to identifying where on the scale you are at any given time in your sexual experience. To do this, you should quickly consider the following two things as you have sex:
- If you carried on doing whatever position you’re doing, at whatever speed and depth you’re going at, how long would it take you to come? A few seconds, a minute or two, 10 minutes? The shorter this amount of time is, the higher on the scale you are.
- How strong are the sensations in your penis at this time? Do they come and go every 10 seconds? Are they constantly there? The more intense and insistent the sensations in your penis are, especially around the tip and base, the higher on the scale you are.
Okay, you’ve got the scale and you’ve got the two things you need to instantly consider as you have sex. How often should you determine where you are on the scale? The answer is not when you suddenly notice that you’re on the edge of coming. The answer is, if you usually come within three minutes of starting sex, use the scale every 20 seconds or so. If you usually come within ten minutes, use the scale every minute or so. Using the scale this often might sound like hell, but it’s actually really easy. It takes about 1 second to know where on the stimulation scale you are.
Now you are up to speed on Stimulation Awareness, its importance and how it’s used in conjunction with the Stimulation Scale, you’re ready to use it alongside actual techniques and tactics, which are designed to bring you down the scale, without disrupting sex or otherwise ruining it for you or your partner. This is what we’ll start looking at tomorrow. In the meantime, you can try masturbating with the Stimulation Scale in mind. Identify the sensations you feel and where you feel them depending on where on the scale you are. Remember what you discover—you’ll be using it soon.
Day Two: The Male Mindset
Yesterday you learned all about Stimulation Awareness—in other words, how to always know exactly how turned on and close to coming you are when having sex. This is a vital skill to possess when improving your sexual stamina, because without it, you would never know when to apply the skills you’re going learn throughout this course. So, we’ve got that covered. Now we need to move onto the next step of extending your sexual performance. It concerns your attitude and mindset. Lots of guys, when they hear words like ‘mindset’, ‘state of mind’ and ‘attitude’ get all disappointed, because they think that anything to do with their psychology isn’t ‘real’ information they can use in the sack. This really couldn’t be further from the truth. You know the importance of having the right mindset when you’re an athlete or sportsman. It’s vital—if you have the wrong attitude, you’re doomed to failure. Exactly the same thing applies to having sex and lasting long enough during it. Our minds run our bodies. If we feel sad, we cry. If we think we’re ugly, our body language makes us look unconfident. If we get turned on, we get hard. Simple facts, right? Right. So let’s see what the mindset and attitude is that you must have before, during and after every sexual encounter from now on.
First things first. We guys associate our sexual performance with ‘being a man’. In other words, we demonstrate our masculinity through our sexual technique and stamina. This is why so many guys have inferiority complexes when it comes to sexual stuff. Penis size, ability to get the woman off, what they look like naked—it’s all a product of their need to come off as a capable, experienced, confident man. So when we ejaculate prematurely, we naturally feel like we’ve failed to fulfil our role as the ‘man’ in the relationship. Some guys will say this is untrue and that they don’t care about whether they seem manly or not, they just want to last longer. But think about it, if we guys didn’t care about honouring our role in the sexual relationship, about being a man and doing what a man is supposed to do with his sexual organ, we really wouldn’t give a damn about coming too soon. We’d just be happy we came. But this isn’t the way things are. We DO care, because we want to please the woman we’re having sex with. We want to make them think that we pleasured them immensely and gave them the wild time they craved. We don’t want them wishing we could do better or considering if another guy could do better. So, we need to get our mindset right and adopt an attitude that will NOT make the woman feel disappointed if we come too early. You see, you’re not going to suddenly extend your sexual performance from 1 minute to 1 hour overnight. It’s going to take time. So, you always need to have an attitude that will keep your masculine image intact and the image of you as a strong, confident, attractive man in the mind of your sexual partner complete and untouched.
Here’s the attitude you need to adopt and maintain.
You need to be open about how sensitive your penis is and how turned on your woman makes you. But you need to package these facts the right way. If you say ‘I’m sorry, but I come really fast’, it sounds like a really negative thing. Your woman will therefore see it as a big problem and will start worrying about how you feel about it and how she should feel about it. Instead, take a relaxed, confident approach. If you know you’re going to come after a couple of minutes of starting sex, you need to slow down or stop, look her in the eyes and say, “God, you’re turning me on so much. You’ve got me right on the edge here, I love it. I want to give you a little something.” Think about how this statement sounds to the woman. She knows she’s turning you on, so she’s performing her role as a sexy woman. She’s got you right on the edge, so she’s good at pleasing you. You don’t dislike the fact that you’re on the edge, in fact, you love it, because it feels good. You want to give her the same feeling you have, so you say as much. You then do exactly that. You pull out and go down on her, or kiss her while rubbing her clit and making slow, deep thrusts with your penis. You pleasure her, without needing to pound her. Sure, women love it hard and fast, but they don’t need or even want it like that all the time. Your attitude exudes confidence because you aren’t embarrassed by the fact that you’re on the edge and turned on. You don’t try to hide that fact by not saying anything and gritting your teeth (like the woman wouldn’t notice). You’re sexually confident—and that turns the woman on. You’re fulfilling your role as the man because you’re giving her pleasure and being masculine and in control. Bingo.
But it doesn’t end here. You’ve got the right attitude. You’re open and honest about how much your girl turns you on and how she gets you on the edge the way she does. But you still want to be able to give it to her fast and deep at some point. So how do you that? You use skills. We’ll cover the first of these skills tomorrow, in the next email of this two week crash course in controlling your climax.
Day Three: The 7-2-7 Technique
Hey again.
Let’s jump right back into it—how to extend your sexual performance.
Yesterday I mentioned that the way to have great sex, even if you suffer from premature ejaculation, is to use skills. But ‘skills’ is a pretty broad term. What are we talking about here? Well, take the following technique as a perfect example. It’s called the 7-2-7 technique and it goes like this.
Every guy wants to give their partner what she wants when they have sex. It’s not about ‘doing what she says’ or following the pressures of society, it’s just about being sexually skilful. You scratch her back and she’ll scratch yours—so to speak. So, to give a complete sexual performance you need to pleasure your partner in different ways. Some of these ways, unfortunately, could potentially bring about an early climax for you. Nevertheless, you still want to cover all the bases. You don’t want to do it slow and steady the whole time, nor do you want to go fast and hard for 10 seconds, only to climax way too soon. You want to do it slow for a while, fast for a while, mix it up and thereby give a varied and complete sexual performance. Here’s how to do that, even if in the past you’ve experienced early climaxes.
The 7-2-7 technique works like this. While having penetrative sex, you go at it hard, fast and deep for as long as it takes you to reach 7 on the stimulation scale, then you gradually drop back down the scale, through 6, 5, 4 and 3, until you’re at a 2. You go slow and steady until all extreme stimulation has disappeared, then you work your way back up through the scale, through 3, 4, 5, 6, until you reach 7, at which time you’re back going fast and hard. This might sound pretty simple, but it’s actually really clever. What most guys with premature ejaculation do is pump away until they’re actually past a 7. They don’t stop or slow down when they reach 7 because they want to go for as long as they can before needing to stop. However, just because you can reach an 8 or a low 9 before finding yourself at the point of no return doesn’t mean you should go that far. These guys, who go crazy for 30 seconds, then find themselves on the brink of climaxing, realise they’re close to popping, so suddenly stop thrusting. And I mean STOP. They totally halt the action and sort of linger inside their partner, silently and strangely. Then, when they think they’re ready to start again, they’ll begin pumping away once more. Clearly this a terrible way to control your sexual stimulation. The 7-2-7 technique is much, much better. Here’s how to do it once more. After you’ve finished foreplay, which should last at least ten minutes and be passionate and full of sexual heat, enter your partner—in other words, start the penetration. Don’t make the mistake of immediately blasting away at full speed. Instead, start ultra slow and sensual. Make slow circles with your hips, gently thrusting in and out at different depths. Take a mental note of which depth and speed elevates your stimulation level. Now start to increase the speed of your thrusts. Don’t go crazy, just take the speed and depth up a notch or two. Keep building the rhythm. You should now start to feel your stimulation level increasing, going from 2 up to a 3, 4 or 5. Keep going, but remember that you, after all, are having sex. Stay in the moment and don’t act like you’re doing mental arrhythmic. By the time you reach 6 or 7 on the scale, you should have been thrusting, at a steadily increasing speed, for at least 2 or 3 minutes. This is good and plenty long enough. As soon as you reach 7, start to decrease your thrust speed. You might think that you can go a bit longer before you need to slow down, but don’t give in to this urge. You need to catch yourself before you lose yourself. Work back down through the numbers: 6, 5, 4, 3…back to two. You’ve now been having penetrative sex for about 5 minutes in one position. This is easily long enough to justify a change in position, which—as you can imagine—gives you a little time to cool off and take yourself back down to 0-1 on the scale. Perfect.
Tomorrow we’ll cover another sexual skill that you can use next time you have sex, to both extend the duration of your sexual performance and pleasure your partner as much as, if not more than, she expects.
Day Four: Control Even When She’s In Charge
You’re committed and that’s a big part of sorting out your problem with premature ejaculation.
Yesterday you were told about the 7-2-7 technique, which involves going from a 2 on the stimulation scale up to a 7, by slowly increasing your thrust speed while having sex, then—once you’re a 7—bringing yourself back down through the numbers, so that you’re at a 2 once more. This circumvents the problem of going above a 7, which is guaranteed to shorten your sexual performance, while also making sure that your partner is pleasured and impressed by the way you’re…erm…making love to her. Alright, so what about when she’s the one in control? How do you keep your stimulation levels where they need to be to stop you from reaching the point of no return? The answer is simple but fiendishly clever. It’s called the Distract and Direct method. Here’s how it works.
There’s no way you want to be driving the action the whole time you have sex with your partner. First, it can get tiring. Second, it’s fun and a turn-on when your girl takes the reigns. And third, you just don’t want to hog the driving seat. Women like to please their guys, just as we guys like to give it to our women the way we and they want it. Slow, steady, hard, fast, playfully, teasingly, roughly, sensually…everyway you can imagine. So what do you do when your girl takes the reigns and starts to direct the action? Well, if you’re a guy with premature ejaculation, the answer is usually ‘panic!’ But not in this case. You see, there are techniques you can use to keep your stimulation levels in check. The Distract and Direct method is one such technique.
The three most common sex positions that involve the woman being in control of the action are, of course, her on top facing you (cowgirl), her on top facing away from you (reverse cowgirl) and doggy style. Doggy style might at first seem like a position in which the man is in control, but in reality, quite often the girl will start to move backwards and forwards, and well, you get the idea. She takes control and the guy stands or kneels as the action goes on. So, with these two positions in mind, how do you control your stimulation levels without stopping the action? Well, you don’t. You use the Distract and Direct technique. Here’s how. Let’s say your partner is on top of you, in cowgirl. She’s riding you and it’s all good. Then you start to feel yourself moving rapidly up the stimulation scale, past a 5 and towards a 7. By the time you reach 7, you want to know that you’re going to be able to adjust the action in a such a way that will allow you to slowly bring your stimulation level back down. Here’s how. She’s riding you and has been doing so for a minute or two. You reach 7 on the scale. You say to her, “That feels so good. Come here, I want to kiss you.” She’ll then bend down to kiss you, so instead of sitting up straight, she’s now on top of you, with her head near yours and her chest pretty much parallel to your torso. Start kissing her and slowly take over the action. Because she’s leaning forward so much, she’ll naturally stop or vastly slow down the amount of bouncing and grinding she’s doing. You can now place your hands on her rear and take over the thrusting AT YOUR OWN SPEED. This gives you the chance to get back to where you want to be on the stimulation scale. So, kissing her is the distraction and taking over the thrusting and movement is the direction. When you’re ready for her to start again, stop kissing her and bring your hands back to your sides. She’ll naturally sit up again and take over once more. There’s no agreement or discussion here—it just works by itself because of the change in body positions. Now let’s imagine you’re in doggy and she’s controlling the back and forth movement. You realise you’re around the 7 mark on the scale. You need to distract and direct. Distract by leaning forward a little, reaching around her waist and rubbing her clit. This will make her slow down her movement. Now slowly begin to take over the thrusting, until you’re going at a fair speed. At which point, lean back so you’re vertical again and carry on. When you’re ready for her to take over once more, stop thrusting and she’ll feel a natural urge take control again.
The Distract and Direct technique works so well because the girl always feels like she’s the one controlling the action, even when—for a minute or two—you take over. She doesn’t realise this happens because she gets distracted by kissing or rubbing or something. Before she knows it, she’s back controlling the action. This makes sex feel two-way, shared and therefore damn good, for you and for her.
Day Five: Pre-empt the Problem
Yesterday we covered a clever little tactic for staying in control of your stimulation levels during sex, even when your partner is in charge of the action. Today, we’re going to be looking at a really simple, but surprisingly effective technique that isn’t even used during sex—it’s used well before sex takes place. It’s called pre-empting the problem. Here’s how it goes.
Think of the last time you had sex with your partner which ended just a few disappointing minutes after it began. For whatever reason, you came too early—your stimulation levels hit the ceiling and the point of no return was passed. That’s okay, in fact, it’s a good thing because it allows you to grasp the concept that follows. Do you remember what the status of your sexual organ, to put it a little biologically, was after you came? It became unusable, right? It took a break and therefore couldn’t be used to initiate sex again, at least, not for a good while. The thing to recognize here is that you can use this same principle in a positive sense to extend your sexual performance all the time. After you come, you are essentially unable to come again—unless you beat the hell out of it—for at least half an hour or an hour. Every guy’s different but we all need some time to recharge. Once you’ve recharged and are ready to go once more, you are guaranteed to be less horny and sensitive—and therefore less prone to coming too soon—than you were the first time round. A simple concept, right? But it gets better. You see, you might be thinking that jerking off an hour before you have sex is a pretty unattractive, tiring prospect. But this is not what you have to do. Instead, you need to calculate what your personal recharge gap is. What this means is that you want to discover how long before having sex with your partner you need to come to make sure that you don’t ejaculate too quickly when doing the real thing. For most guys who suffer from premature ejaculation, this can be as long as 8 hours before. This is a great thing. It means you can come early in the day, have a shower, go about your day as usual, then have sex with your partner in the evening without the problem of coming too early. For other men, with more severe cases of rapid ejaculation, the gap of time might be shorter, say, 4 hours. But the principle still applies and it still works. Try it— to most guys it sounds too simple to work, but you’ll see that it can double, triple or even quadruple the length of your sexual performance once you know exactly what your personal gap time is.
Day Six: Solo Training Technique #1
The two week ‘Last Longer’ course continues! Today is day number six and you’ve so far learned a handful of solid, tried and tested techniques that can all be used to build your sexual stamina. You’re about to learn another one. It is a solo training technique, which means that you’ll use it by yourself to train your body and mind and thereby boost your ability to control your sexual stimulation levels. This will effectively extend your sexual performance in the bedroom, each and every time. Here’s what you need to do.
Whether you masturbate on a regular basis or not, this technique involves a little hands on action. If you’re adverse to the idea of doing this, then, well, you’re missing out on a really effective sexual stamina building technique. Hopefully you’re down with the idea, though.
Start by getting hard. You can do this with some visual stimulation, like porn, or without any ‘turn on’ aids. Once you’re ‘maxed out’ and have been jerking it slowly for a couple of minutes, you need to apply some lube. Use a water based lube, like KY Jelly or Astroglide, or whatever your favorite brand is. Apply it liberally, especially to the top of your penis, around the head. If you’re uncircumcised, pull down your foreskin and apply the lube all over the head. Now you’re going to use a special little technique that involves the thumb, forefinger and middle finger of your dominant hand. Take these fingers and wrap them around the head of your penis. Now you should pinch it by applying pressure using all three of these digits. Make sure there’s plenty of lube under them. Now jerk the head by using a rhythmic motion that only moves over the top inch or so of your shaft, which is essentially the head and just below the head.
The reason you’re using this technique is because the head of your penis is its most sensitive area. It’s the part of your penis that is being over-stimulated when you have sex, which is what makes you come too soon. As you use the rhythmic motion, squeeze quite tight. Experiment with how much pressure it takes to suddenly boost the intensity of stimulation you’re feeling. Keep going. You’ll find that your stimulation levels will continue to grow and grow. Keep applying more lube as you need it. Now you’re going to ‘edge’. This means getting to an 8 or 9 on the stimulation scale, then slowing down until you’re just below a 7, then stepping it up again, up to a 8 or 9, then repeating the process. You keep doing this until you can feel—and you really will feel it—the sensations building in the head of your penis and just below its base, under and around your pubic mound. Continue to edge for at least three minutes. Now you are free to come, but what’s often better is to not come. Instead, clean up by wiping and having a wash, get clothed up and go about the rest of your day. Sounds a little strange, right? But it makes a lot of sense. You’re ‘teaching’ your penis that it’s possible to become extremely stimulated without reaching ejaculation soon after. This is what you need to happen in the bedroom.
Use this solo training technique once a day for three days. Then take a day off. Then do it once more, except this time edge not for 3 minutes, but for 10 minutes. Now you’re really getting somewhere—your sexual stamina is increasing nicely.
Tomorrow you’ll be taught another solo training technique.
Day Seven: Solo Training Technique #2
You’re devoted to the idea of improving your sexual stamina.
Today we’re going to cover another solo training technique. It should be completed when you have half an hour to spare, during which time you won’t be disturbed.
Let’s dive straight into this technique. You should try to perform this whole thing in the shower, because it can be a tad messy. Plus, any noise that’s created is masked by the sound of the falling water. It’s just nicer, to be honest—warm and convenient. It’s also a time that is scheduled in your daily life. So if you have a shower every morning, you can use this technique during it, at the same time every other day. This helps you to avoid forgetting to perform the technique.
Start by jumping in the shower, or stepping in, depending on your preference. Fire it up—get lots of very warm eater cascading all over you. This will get your blood rushing through your system, which is good for the next step. Start to massage your penis (surely you saw this coming). Use whatever technique you prefer for getting yourself up, but try to do it fairly quickly. Okay, you’re now going to blast it. Get a massive amount of lube in the palm of your right hand. Step forwards, so you’re not under the stream of the shower. Now grasp your penis using your dominant, lubed up hand and blast it. Jerk it hard and fast, focussing on the head of your penis. Really whack the hell out of it. It sounds ridiculous, but it works, so what the hell. Keep going crazy on it. Tighten and tense your legs to increase the stimulation and sensations even more. You want to get damn close to coming in as short a space of time as humanly possible. You should be able to do it in less than 60 seconds. But as it’s your first time, don’t worry too much about the clock. As soon as you feel yourself approaching the point of no return, around the 9 mark on the scale, instantly stop jerking it. Now, if you struggle to get this close to the edge in under a minute or two, you should try doing the technique out of the shower, while lying on your bed. This way, you’re able to really stretch out your legs, which we all know will help you approach ejaculation quickly.
The point of this exercise is the following. The first solo training technique you learned involved slowly building up the sensation and stimulation until you were on the edge, then backing off, then slowly building it again. This technique is like a light-speed version of that. You literally go crazy on your penis in the shortest amount of time possible, until you’re just about to come. This technique ‘teaches’ your penis self-control in a different, but equally effective way to the first solo technique. It’s put through its paces in a really short space of time, just like when you have sex. You usually come too quickly. But during this technique, you have much more control. You simulate becoming completely aroused too quickly, then totally back off. You’re doing what you can’t really do when actually having sex—unless your partner is extremely understanding and not easily fazed.
You can repeat this technique a few more times before finishing your shower and getting out. Even better, you can use this technique, then use the first solo technique you were taught. Now we’re talking—this is pure serious sexual stamina training.
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